Cleaner
Posted in Uncategorized with tags 2007, Barnes James, Browne Edrick, Cantillo Jose Pablo, Crime, Folmer Richard, Forster Robert, Guy Mike, Guzman Luis, Harris Ed, Jackson Samuel L., Macaulay Marc, Thriller on March 21, 2010 by jeremyvelazquez1978|
IMDB rating: 6.10 Plot: A former cop who now earns a wage as a crime scene cleaner unknowingly participates in a cover-up at his latest job. |
Actors: Jackson Samuel L.,Harris Ed,Guzman Luis,Cantillo Jose Pablo,Forster Robert,Browne Edrick,Macaulay Marc,Guy Mike,Folmer Richard,Barnes James,Crime,Thriller,
What are some ways to encourage change in your parents lifestyle?
My parents divorced when I was very young, and I lived with my mom until I was seventeen, after which I moved in with my father (he’s lived alone since the divorce, about thirteen years). We were living in an apartment that he had been in for two years previous to me coming to stay with him. He had never cleaned the floors in the kitchen or the bathroom, and by the time I moved in, the dirt was so caked on that they were impossible to clean (the rest of the apartment was similarly "well kept"). He is a retired man, and until the October that just passed, he did nothing but play WoW on his computer. He would literally sit there from 5am when he woke up until 9pm when he went to bed- he’s not a people person, and does not have one friend. While it is not the lifestyle I choose for myself, I accept that he is a homebody and a loner, because he is comfortable and "happy" living his life this way. I put "happy" in quotation marks because he has a very negative outlook. Not negative in a "what’s the point to life" kind of way- He rarely speaks of the positive things about his day or his life; The most used word in his vocabulary is "ignorant"… He uses this to describe women, seniors, people of different race (although I’m never sure if he’s joking when he talks about race), and lately he’s taken to calling gay men qu__rs. If he isn’t complaining, he’s trying to give me the biography of each actor we see on television. "Oh! That’s ________! He was on ________ and ________ and in the movie ________. He married what’s her name? _________. I wonder where he lives now! Last time I saw him, he was ______." It wouldn’t be so bad if this didn’t happen literally, three or four times per show. That’s the kind of answer he gives when I ask about his day, after he’s told me of the ignorant people he came across. He tells me about an actor. I think he does this because he’s always on Wikipedia. ANYWAY, before he got his job, he only showered at most once a week, although he does his laundry on a routine basis (once a week usually, if not more often). Since he’s got his job, he showers almost every day, or at least every other day. We moved in the middle of January to a townhouse within a small village, and while I’m grateful for a fresh start in a clean place, it’s difficult for me to maintain by myself. I wake up in the morning and dishes are piled up for me to do, and there are crumbs all over the floor even though I just swept, mopped, vacuumed and washed the dishes the night before. I can’t complain TOO much as I don’t have a job ATM so cleaning gives me something to do.
Now we come to his eating habits. My dad is a bigger man, of about 280 pounds (he lost some weight last year), who is constantly "on a diet". I put THIS in quotation marks because on weekdays, this is his typical meal plan; He eat breakfast at home, an omelet and a coffee, then goes to Tim Horton’s and gets a coffee and a couple of donuts. For lunch he goes to a fast food restaurant and orders a meal as well as eating his packed lunch of a sandwich, two apples and some tuna, then comes home and expects dinner to be ready for him. He will have a potato, a couple of chicken breasts or a couple of steaks, some french fries or some vegetables (the veggies that I have to force him to eat), then later have a sandwich, then later have some ice cream. The man will sit down and eat an entire cheesecake for a snack. He CANNOT leave left overs, so he will eat everything I cook for dinner. He’s the kind of guy that can order a three person Chinese take-out meal and have it in one sitting, then be hungry two hours later. This terrible eating habit combined with his laziness worries me- even if I convince him to only buy healthy food, he will come home the next day with a tub of ice cream and frozen fries, or a pizza. He’s a food addict. He has no order or discipline, and as his daughter I need to get him to change his habits! HOW CAN I DO THIS/WHERE DO I START??
You didn’t mention your age, but it sounds like you are pretty mature. Sounds like Pop needs professional help. Get with a counselor and talk. Seriously, you can’t fix this on your own. My Pop crashed like that when I was about 22. Got mad at me for ratting him out. Thanked me for saving his life later.
gi am smart | Feb 07, 2010
